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Two relatives died within days of each other this week.They lived together and their father died in April. With all the work that I had to do, I was also faced with the shock of these developments. Their deaths have caused much introspection about duty and relationships in general. I did not know them very well. They were quiet, retiring people, and the pace and attitudes set by the older people in the family, and their behavior as well, never led one to venture to press them to do things that other family members did as a matter of course. What their lives show me is that no ones way of life is to be judged unworthy or less than another. They may not have sought a fast lifestyle. They may not have courted friendships...but they mattered to each other. They did not come into the world and take from it and give nothing back. They were dutiful to their parents to the end, and I believe that their deaths groove that they were indeed their parents sons....come to support them and to leave without fuss. It must have been a decision made in the ether, to support each other....the ultimate gift of love. ................................. Meanwhile, The Towers and I have had some very long talks. We are now on better footing. It is working out better. I feel less stressed by him now. I am still working on how to have a good friendship with him, but things have improved sharply for the better. .................................