watch yourself

A friend of mine contacted me with a job that I can't do because I am almost at the end of a deadline that I cannot break for the task in question. So i put him on to three different people. Only one came up to scratch. The other two, who happen to be female, completely flaked. I was disappointed in both of them, because I chose them ahead of the guy who showed the most enthusiasm. More and more, I am seeing that there are people I come into contact with who complain, and complain bitterly about the way life has treated them. They say, if only I had this, or, everyone is so unprofessional...and then, when I spend more time knowing them, I can see as plain as day that the very thing that they complain about, they embody. Right now, I take that as an opportunity to check my own temperature. It is very easy to complain. A few years ago I read in Science of Mind that complaining is a form of learned helplessness. The worst thing about it is that it is easy and it prevents you from solving whatever the issue is. Instead, the goal at hand is to vent, and to vent to anyone who would listen. Once vented, it is cast aside. It is actually a highly selfish act. Instead, I am interested in action...in purpose. There are a number of things that I am very keen to see happen, and I no longer need to share it with others. If and when I do share it, it is with those who can assist in making the thing happen. There is no time like the present to act. Act now, act from where you are. Just know that the point is to DO. This is paraphrased from the great Tennis star, Arther Ashe. ...... I recently caught myself nearly complaining about my personal space or lack of...and I am very pleased to record that I caught myself and placed in my thinking instead, the pleasure of a small act of joy that I could share where I am now, with my child. That put everything in perspective for me and got me right out of what in another instance would have been some self pity party. Adjust my thinking...improve my world.