A dose of cold water WAKE-UP

I was thinking about my ex, and as I stated yesterday, I was feeling down. But in the light of day, with a little sleep, I can see things a bit differently.
If my relationship was good, then I would not be talking about him as an ex. We would have been able to work out whatever it was that was conflicting to us. He would have viewed the situation that he felt was intenable from a place of sharing issues with his partner. instead he behaved like a dictator and still does.
If everything was so rosy, then we would have had the mechanisms in place to support whatever we planned, even if we had divergent views, which we did. He would not have tried to use low tactics and lies to get what he wanted in the divorce and he would not be still trying to get me upset at every turn.
Today, my sober reaction is where I should be right now. But I know that because I was with him for all of my adult life, I will fall back from time to time.