travel for the soul

I have been away for a few weeks from my home country. It is good to get away. The distance helps me see more clearly. Yet, this time, I have had a chance to listen and observe others having their own challenges. There is one root situation in all of the variations I have listened to, and that is the person against the actual issue at hand. It seems that most of us hold to our position of whatever narrative we tell ourselves about a particular thing. In so doing, the thing grows with us, and as things grow, we lose sight of the individual parts and everything gels together. So what ends up happening is that even if you could be objective, you are not likely to be completely so, as, as things pile up because you are observing and feeling the thing as negative and an obstacle....more of the same continues to happen. As an outsider, it is easy to see what is going on, and it is easy to think that it can be so easily fixed by changing perspective. However, the person within the experience is blinded to the outside. They are seeing the thing up close. Another observation is that the person may say that they want things to change. But they seem to be stating this while standing in quicksand. They may want help, but they somehow do not know that they have the tools to get out of the sinking sensation. Again and again I heard completely intelligent, rational people make excuses about why they remain stuck even though they completely abhore their circumstances. Looking from the outside my heart aches for the position I see them placed in. If only they could separate themselves from the thing that hurts them and literally float above it. If only they could see the illusion for what it is.