New Post, new year

Another year finds me hugging my little one just in case the fireworks get so loud that it becomes disorienting. The year has felt more than a little eventful, but I am grateful for all that I have learnt. Some of it came by easily, and some I am still learning what is to learnt. ALl in all, I give thanks for life, health, grace, honor, humour and above all else, love.

When you see the world as it is, but insist on making it more like it could be, you matter.
…When you love the work you do and the people you do it with, you matter.
When you are so gracious and generous and aware that you think of other people before yourself, you matter.
When you leave the world a better place than you found it, you matter.
When you continue to raise the bar on what you do and how you do it, you matter.
When you teach and forgive and teach more before you rush to judge and demean, you matter.
When you touch the people in your life through your actions (and your words), you matter.
When kids grow up wanting to be you, you matter.
When you inspire a Nobel prize winner or a slum dweller, you matter.
When the room brightens when you walk in, you matter.
And when the legacy you leave behind lasts for hours, days or a lifetime, you matter…
— Seth Godin

I found a lovely poem on a blog.

Sisterhood.

Created by friendsforever909

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don 't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.

BUT.........

Sisters are there,
no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.
A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.
When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself
the women in your lifewill be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you,
pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the
valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you...
Or come in and carry you out.
Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers,
aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I.......

DARE 2 B happy

I just had to play a bit with that title. I cannot remember when last I went out somewhere to have fun? As I write, the neighbour is having a wedding, and the music is of course, loud and festive. Today is also my dad's birthday, so there is the element of end of year, birthdays and celebrations, and of course, one must think about what is to come.
I thought about the title from looking at some trash television, something that I have not done for many, many months. There is nothing like television to push you into an area of nicely packaged semi-reality.
There are birthday parties to plan,and even simple moments to remember as joyous. The point is to get to it.
I found this great article on happiness yesterday, and that reminds me as well about getting out of the bad habit of stultifying sameness.
I am guilty of having one or two things that is going on with me,dominate my reality. I think for the rest of the year I must consciously work on doing better.

More cohesive than others

I have decided that I shall take full advantage of the moments when I feel optimistic. Those moments feel as though I am invincible. I feel that every idea can be accomplished and every stumbling block in my way is but a pebble.
I like feeling this way, and I think that I have longer periods of optimism than not. However, I am not fully there, and I am not certain that anyone ever gets there other than Buddhist monks and Sufi clerics. But it doesn't hurt to try.
The confidence that I feel today is one where I see a great deal of my work complete, I feel that I am definately moving towards the direction I need to go to move on with my life, and I even feel that I can solve the more immediate issues that I dealt with this week.

What a week, my little one was ill and in hospital, and I had a number of issues to deal with. Of late I have been asking at every situation that I come across, tell me what I am to learn. This new habit has made circumstances easier for me.
In the next week, I want to get the things that I have been planning, accomplished, or at least started.
I have not been one hundred percent myself. But that is expected because I have been dealing with my little one.

Realisation

There is nothing like coming to an understanding about some things in your life. The funny thing is that they are not particularly remarkable. They are sometimes truisms that you have heard for many years. But when you finally GET it, it is serendipitous.
For me, it is the decision last week to literally say in my mind that 'I am starting over,' doing this, I now find myself able to embrace my decisions like never before.
Why this is different than before, is in the way that I am thinking. I am not making decisions based on what I think I shall like. I am great at making long lists of things that I need to do. But this time, what I am feeling is a sense of myself as the maker of these decisions with the intention of moving forward with my child.
What is wonderful too, is the assurance and confidence I feel about this.
In the past I have been unsure about which direction to take. But now, I say to myself, whatever you do not know, get expert advice, but it it ultimately MY decision to make. That makes me feel very positive for a change.
This is a big deal for me, because at one point in my life I was afraid to make the wrong decision and I let other people's opinion overshadow my own.
I always thought that I was simply agreeing with their opinion, and found that opinion sound, but really I was giving up some of my responsibility and my view, bit by bit. I can see this now, and I am not going back in that direction again.