naked

A simple but radical spiritual practice is to accept whatever arises in the Now - within and without
- Eckhart Tolle
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My Aunt and Uncle just spoke with me, to empathize with all that they are observing going on with my parents and my husband. They can see the behaviour of all the parties as I have been seeing it for years. My Aunt concluded that they all need therapy. This issue is one of control. What is it that they all want to control? I do not know. What I do know is that twenty years of wrangling has come to a head.
I have spent many years trying to understand and moreso, smooth the way between these three people. Eventually I gave up, I concluded that they were all selfish, wanting their own way. For how else could you explain their desire to be right above doing what is best? They always find slights about the other. They wrestle for perceived turf.
I have felt pulled and tugged. I have drawn lines that no one has taken on.
The latest issue is now another level of manipulation and argument, with my sister now playing a minor role. The whole thing reads like an Orwellian play.
I have to look at my part in the equation. I have responded in a number of ways, and my tendency toward wanting to please and wanting to do the right thing, has compounded the behaviour. My relatives have thrown up their hands, they see the whole thing as intenable. I appreciate that they can see what I see,as I stated before, because many times I have felt overwhelmed and hopeless about the whole thing. Thus this site. I need to try to solve things beyong my diary offline.
It starts with just laying down the issues, bare boned.