I found a lovely poem on a blog.

Sisterhood.

Created by friendsforever909

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don 't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.

BUT.........

Sisters are there,
no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.
A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.
When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself
the women in your lifewill be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you,
pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the
valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you...
Or come in and carry you out.
Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers,
aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I.......

DARE 2 B happy

I just had to play a bit with that title. I cannot remember when last I went out somewhere to have fun? As I write, the neighbour is having a wedding, and the music is of course, loud and festive. Today is also my dad's birthday, so there is the element of end of year, birthdays and celebrations, and of course, one must think about what is to come.
I thought about the title from looking at some trash television, something that I have not done for many, many months. There is nothing like television to push you into an area of nicely packaged semi-reality.
There are birthday parties to plan,and even simple moments to remember as joyous. The point is to get to it.
I found this great article on happiness yesterday, and that reminds me as well about getting out of the bad habit of stultifying sameness.
I am guilty of having one or two things that is going on with me,dominate my reality. I think for the rest of the year I must consciously work on doing better.

More cohesive than others

I have decided that I shall take full advantage of the moments when I feel optimistic. Those moments feel as though I am invincible. I feel that every idea can be accomplished and every stumbling block in my way is but a pebble.
I like feeling this way, and I think that I have longer periods of optimism than not. However, I am not fully there, and I am not certain that anyone ever gets there other than Buddhist monks and Sufi clerics. But it doesn't hurt to try.
The confidence that I feel today is one where I see a great deal of my work complete, I feel that I am definately moving towards the direction I need to go to move on with my life, and I even feel that I can solve the more immediate issues that I dealt with this week.

What a week, my little one was ill and in hospital, and I had a number of issues to deal with. Of late I have been asking at every situation that I come across, tell me what I am to learn. This new habit has made circumstances easier for me.
In the next week, I want to get the things that I have been planning, accomplished, or at least started.
I have not been one hundred percent myself. But that is expected because I have been dealing with my little one.

Realisation

There is nothing like coming to an understanding about some things in your life. The funny thing is that they are not particularly remarkable. They are sometimes truisms that you have heard for many years. But when you finally GET it, it is serendipitous.
For me, it is the decision last week to literally say in my mind that 'I am starting over,' doing this, I now find myself able to embrace my decisions like never before.
Why this is different than before, is in the way that I am thinking. I am not making decisions based on what I think I shall like. I am great at making long lists of things that I need to do. But this time, what I am feeling is a sense of myself as the maker of these decisions with the intention of moving forward with my child.
What is wonderful too, is the assurance and confidence I feel about this.
In the past I have been unsure about which direction to take. But now, I say to myself, whatever you do not know, get expert advice, but it it ultimately MY decision to make. That makes me feel very positive for a change.
This is a big deal for me, because at one point in my life I was afraid to make the wrong decision and I let other people's opinion overshadow my own.
I always thought that I was simply agreeing with their opinion, and found that opinion sound, but really I was giving up some of my responsibility and my view, bit by bit. I can see this now, and I am not going back in that direction again.

My latest work

In the next few weeks I shall be making much bigger stuff than I ever have before and that is very exciting. Also my mother shall be out of the country,so my aunt and I want to use that time to get rid of a great deal of crap that she has had clogging up all of the rooms of the house. This is not something that I would usually want to talk about, far less write about, but I want to do so here because it is a big deal to do this. My mother has been complaining about the house like a stuck record.So, now that she shall be away for two weeks, we have the opportunity to do the things that she should be doing but will not do.
On a brighter note, and pertaining to me, my work has me very jazzed to see something made from scratch. I have no idea how I am going to get some of it actually made in the areas I have planned, but I am more interested in getting them done. I see it as at least a dress rehearsal for even bigger opportunities in the future. The good planning of this project can make it a yearly activity. It has the scope of being something that can help people, and that is always a great thing.

Expected results

It could not have been better planned. My cousin wrote me a very disgruntled email about his book. He assumed that I had no intention of doing it. So his letter was filled with disappointment. Little did he know that not only was it finished, he would get it the very next day!
I loved springing this surprise on him! It went way better than I could have planned it.
When he called me he was over the moon, extatic! He told me it made him cry. He was so moved by every single page. He kept looking at it, wondering whether I might have left out anything he would like to add, and he could find nothing.
Then to add to the wonderful mood of the whole thing, my little one kept looking at the book herself, that she kept pressing the keypad of this computer to see the book back and front. She then told me that,and I quote, "found the book very beautiful."
Now that's a great endorcement if I ever heard one.
One one more note, she finally gor the hang of going to the potty. So that was the big surprise for my mother's birthday!
Smiles abound.