By the way....

One of the things that helped lead to the ah,ha moment, was the fact that to someone else, my situation is not a problem. I thought about it, hearing someone say to me, "But this isn't a problem," and after that statement, hearing myself as if from on the outside looking in, seeing it all with detachment.
Being able to do that, led my thinking to what has been bothering me specifically, now. My mothers' meddling, while trying to be helpful.
She keeps talking to everyone she knows about my 'situation' so much so that my aunt in Canada had to call me to tell me that my business is all over the street. I expected that that would happen, once I spoke with my mother and her other sister. But hearing those words, really pissed me off.
I spoke to both of them about it, but they haven't stopped talking!
The answer is simple, take control of your life. Thank them for caring, but make it clear that you do not require their opinion, even if you cannot live on your own right away. Don't allow yourself to fall into the parent /child trap and the take care of me, I am needy, poor me trap either.
Do the things that you need to do to get your life in order. it is that simple.