Back and forth and back again

My particular circumstances, divorce, the loss of my closest friend and the change of my way of life, I sometimes feel acutely. I am not always aware of how much I have adjusted my expectations. But yesterday and today, I saw that in my conversations with Mr.World traveller First of all, I contacted him and just needed to hear from him. I did not want to discuss what was bothering me at first. This is because in the past it would be my closest friend who would hear all about what was going on with me. It was so weird that it felt like I was taking a leap of faith to unburden myself to someone whom I consider a really dear friend. We talk about all sorts of things, so why not move right along? So imagine my delight when he decided not to have me type it all, but literally called me and looked at me face to face. I was so pleased. Then today, the tables were turned and he wanted to get some thoughts off his mind and he called me. We might be mirroring the other. I see now that we have lots of ambivalence about our lives. We get up every day with the best intentions. But there is so much more to say, so much unsaid. More and more he reaches out to me, as a real friend. I do not push him though, it is a sensitive thing, to know that you are doing so very much and yet, you do not feel that you are doing nearly enough. Sometimes he feels so very close to me, in a romantic way, and then at other times, I feel that to get remotely close like that is just not that important. It is an interesting place to be. It shows me that I really care about him. I am not about to behave rashly. I think that one thing that I must do is to decide once and for all what he actually means to me and just leave it at that.