Bemusement

Today I was giving much thought to my year. I have spent what to me are some rough times emotionally, going over and over some rocky ground that left me feeling so much disappointment. Who wants to feel that way? The irony is also that I have a friend who has gone through something along the lines of one of my experiences, and she has leaned on me tremendously over the last few months, laying all of her emotions on the line, over and over again I have reassured her of her power, her value, her strengths, and that she deserves so much better for herself. This led me to ask, why are we programmed the way that we are sometimes? Why do we put into our minds at a certain age that this man that is smiling with us, engaging us, looking at us like a meal on legs is THE ONE?! It is almost laughable when you think about it.
I have always felt that men get too much credit, and actually, the whole love thing isn't about them at all. Do not make yourself a prize for a man. Develop yourself because you deserve to nurture a secure, strong, beautiful self. So that when you meet a man, he should want to naturally strive to be your complement...as a dear friend of mine says "anything less would be uncivilized."
Also, I see the poor me archetype rearing it's nasty little head at me. Here is vintage poor me, why did this have to happen to me? I could do that, or I can pick myself up and say, ok, I made mistakes, I wanted and hoped that the fairytale could come true...but I was off the mark, but you know what, I shall pick myself up, keep believing in myself, nurturing myself, being my cheering squad, loving myself and moving right on. Now that makes sense.