What a dichotomy,it threw me for a loop for some time. But now I can write about it in the fullness of time. I had thought that I had met someone who might become something special, but little nudges kept cropping up that suggested that things were not right. What was interesting was that in every way, The Towers looked ideal for me. But the little things were the issues that kept cropping up. They kept nagging at me. So you can imagine, several weeks ago, he had sent me a note wanting to see me, and I never got it, instead I got a message from him the next day, less happy about what he wanted to experience. Naturally I did not know about the why, so I got a big lecture about his wanting to have more of my attention. I found the whole reveal surprising,but I took it as an opportunity to see how well we communicated, particularly if we were disagreeing about something. I actually took the time and proceeded to take a whole day out of my schedule and spent it with him. The next week,it seemed like the understanding was forgotten, and yet again, i felt like, straight questions met no sensible answers, and worst of all, I could fell easily that he just was not on the same wavelength with me. To me, it is normal to get an answer to a question, unless it is deeply personal or you don't know what to say...also, for someone who had spent so much time talking with me, seeming to be making overtures towards me, it all felt like so much work. There was an inking of passive/ aggressiveness, and it was not like I was expecting perfection, but equally, I certainly was not expecting that every time I felt that we were getting somewhere, I had to start again with simple things. I just had to let it go. I suggested friendship, but he told me that that would be too challenging. WTF! Then ok, we had two projects to do, we could just be colleagues. He agreed and then blew me off for our first meeting. It was then that I threw up my hands and called it a day. It baffled me, why pursue me so long, only to send mixed signals when we finally interacted? I may never know. What I do know, is that this is the best decision for me.