Yet again I found myself listening to a conversation about me. This time it was all about my ex husband and the letter from his Lawyer to me. As I inadvertently heard the opinions metred out, at first I felt hurt. The usual responces that my family jump to always represent him as somehow superior. I am the victim, yet I am also a loser of some kind. To be viewed that way has made me so upset in the past and yesterday got very heavy very quickly. I wanted to fight back. I wanted to charge into the room and defend myself. But then I did something extraudinary for me. I started to have a little chat with myself and I told myself the following-: Their opinions are theirs to have. I have no business contradicting their views and no need to contradict what they think. Their opinions are just that, opinions and I do not have to believe what they believe. When I said that to myself I felt everything I was thinking and feeling completely lighten up for me. My ex-husband writs the kind of letters and gets his Lawyer to write to me the sort of responces that pack a punch in the beginning and end. It is what is in the middle that is the issue. He wants me to help him financially. But he wants to give me less access to our daughter, and he thinks that he can do it. No one in their right mind would agree to such a non-offer. It is absolutely absurd. I have yet to respond, and I am going to take my time to respond. The nuisance factor is acute. The bullying attempt and the extortion is ridiculous! Again, such a situation would have me in a tailspin. I would be anxiety filled and automatically aggitated by his actions. He has now done this sort of thing so many times that I am no longer moved by his actions. What I am is resolute.