more on the 90 days

People on the show talk about loving the person so much, they are the love of their life and they've only known each other a short time. They are being swept away by their fantasy and the emotions that insue from that. There was one couple, a lady called Darcy who is a twin, and she wore her emotions on her sleeve, her chest, her face! Jeez!!!! She is physically beautiful, but she rushes every chance she has with first, Jessy and then Tom. Watching her makes me anxious.She reminds me of something that happened to me many years ago with one of my neighbours. She offered to give me a lift in her car as she saw me walking on our street. As I got into the car she started the conversation reasonably well, and then she started to talk about her job and her daughter and husband, her challenges with juggling things and before we were even out of our street I realised that I was dealing with someone who was overtly stressed and high strung. She onloaded so much on me that I felt as though I had backed up onto a garbage truck. it was terrible! The show lets me see how so many of us are just emotionally messy. We want other people to heal us. They seem to expect that they need to find another person to feel good about themselves? I do not understand that at all? Other people cannot do that for you. You have to have some sense of self preservation and self respect and care. I know that I got so warm and comfortable when juliemangoman said the things he said to me. I really, really felt a connection. It was when he left and I did not hear from him that I crashed down to earth. I remember how shocked I was that it happened so fast. It was the first of three wake up calls. I hadn't been looking, so I was a bit fortunate that I did not put any opinion or fantasy onto him. But the thing was, he began to make me think, suppose and what if? I got really disappointed that I opened myself to him. I felt embarressed and stupid to think that I could put myself into such a vulnerable place. I help myself by comparing it to what happens with business ventures. Some things are not meant to work out, others do. From what I see for this show...you have to make sure that everything you think someone else can give you is something that you really should give to yourself.