On the other side

It has been five days since moving to my ex husband's house to take care of our daughter. It has caused she and I a slew of emotions beginning with being quite thrown by the way he chose to handle the matter. I also have found nostalgia kicking my ass until I was summerily kicked elsewhere this afternoon. He has not written to me to tell me that he has arrived. He is moving true to form. But before he left both he and my daughter got covid. In the last two days she has been complaining about shortness of breath. I have been monitoring her and doing everything that should be done for such a maledy. This afternoon she had a meeting with the Psychologist she has been seeing for a few years and I finally met her. She called my ex husband about my daughter's breathing and he then wrote to our daughter asking how she was. I have been so burned by that man that I am writing in a paranoid way about the entire thing. However, it triggered me because it seemed that he is planning to behave as though our daughter is living on her own, and the Psychologist didn't tell me anything but called him. I spent a few minutes feeling some kinda way about all of this. I really observed myself doing my best not to spiral into a place of serious doubt about simply everything. Was he going to spend the next four months pretending that I do not exist while doing what he wants? I felt trapped, tricked and angry. Then, fortunately I got a grip. Lately I have found a strategy for triggers....I say to myself how far are you wondering from your target? Why am I being distracted? That has helped tremendously and I used it and was so much better after for it.