now

So a month has passed and a few days. My world completely turned around because of the impulsivity of my ex-husband. What has that meant for me/ It has slowed down my day and my thinking. I am no longer focusing only on myself, my mother and aunt and then my daughter, as she was with him.No. I can now put her first for real for this period of time. She and I have always been able to talk to each other. We confided that the whole situation is weird that first week. We blundered through the poor arrangements he made.My first full day was one where I met her teachers and friends. I have seen my child grow from being tentative and practically withdrawn, to being literally rescued. She hugs,she thanks, she dances, she laughs so hard that she doubles over with it. My darling girl. My ex-husband does not mean to be so deficient. He just does not know how to be that nurturer she desperately needs. He really believes that buying things and having things in their house is all that he needs to do. I have helped her with assignments and taking her up on her exams, and made her learning less tressful. Our routines that I have no trouble doing, like ironing her clothes, holding her bag for school as we walk to it and making up her bed to give her a little extra time to exhale are things that I do to take the load, literally off of her back.She was practically doing all of those things and he was spending very little time with her pre-trip abroad for four months.He buys things, yes. But, as stated, I see the things he doesn't know he needs for her too. I actually empathise, as he never seeks out support from anyone as far as I gather. His mother before she passed away would have guided him somewhat.My daughter can finally bring her friends over to visit, and they have been here twice. I got his house cleaned by my mother's House Keeper. We have done a lot.