discovery

My sister called deeply frustrated with her daughter. She was feeling so dispondent that she said some rash things that I had to scold her about. We got interrupted in our call by our mom who wanted to speak with me, and I began telling her about my conversation with my sister. Of course our mom wanted to instantly call her and add to what I had said, but I insisted that she act as though we had not spoken. I told her that I did not want my sister to think that we had discussed her in a way that she miht not have been ready to speak with our mom about. I thought about that afterwards, and one of the things that became clear to me is the perceptions we hold in our minds. Because what is happening with my sister is not happening to me, I can see it differently. Mom sees it in her way as well of course. So this is already four fdifferent ways of seeing. They are all just observtions of the thing itself. I mulled it over and found thatto look at the issue as a facetted thing is to see its complexities certainly, but it also provides a sense of accepting its many sides. In so doing, if you are patient, you can eventually see that you are just observing your side. There might be something else on the other side of the problem. The point is, clarity can come if you can only let go of the outcome you thing your going to get.