and further more.....

Today I also felt very sad about my marriage. I am not the first woman to have this happen to her. I should know that feeling sad about this is not unusual or unexpected. Yet whenever I feel this way, I feel embarressed and upset about it. I cannot seem to get past the fact that from time to time it shall feel as though I have not managed to move past the emotions.

I should take a good look at that. It was traumatic, so what do you expect.

It was traumatic!

There, you said it.

A trauma is a trauma. You will find it difficult to transcend just like that. it takes councelling. it takes time. it takes a conscious observation of what it makes you feel. It isn't something that you get over in a weekend.
Perhaps I need to speak with a professional too?