A friend of mine is being faced with the challenge of her life. She has been married for thirty-two years and her stable, brilliant, handsome husband has gone off the deep end over the last seven years by stepping out on her to a life of drugs and sex addiction. She told me that after such a long time of him disappearing for days and gaslighting her and scaring her with their finances being all askew, she told him that perhaps he should decide if he wants to be single. Listening to what she is going through over this long time has been gut wrenching to hear, knowing both of them. What can you say and do to support them in whatever way I can? I do so anyway. Of course I speak way more to her than to him. He is on the surface in complete denial and shows no signs that I can imagine that he has this other life. These people were beautiful to observe and they still can appear that way. Yet, my friend has spent seven long years with three not saying anything to anyone and dealing with it on her own. Now she has gone to the opposite end of the situation where she has signed up for every self improvement class, couples retreat and psychological support she can find. I hear her slowly but surely coming out of the dungeon that is an emotional, psychic trauma. Amidst all of that, the silver lining is that we have promised each other that we shall do some sort of road trip together. We plan to research seperately places and experiences we want to have and hen we shall meet up and plot the whole thing together and just do it. I am looking forward to that.