Confound it!!

So, my week feels like I burnt my candle every which way and though exhausted, I am writing now. I am pleased despite how I feel, to have accomplished so much this week. However a few things are still on the front burner for me. How I shall work them out, shall take a bit of time. Meanwhile...I prefer to focus on my work than the tiny nagging voice that tells me that I am already a bit fed up with....sheesh, what was the nickname that I gave him again? I think it was the towers. He seems to genuinely think that appearing illusive and laid back is going to make me come forward and he cannot be more wrong. I am too busy, too focused and too jaded to consider that remotely appealing. I think that I have given it enough of my time. I don't know what else to say. His behavior just rubs me the wrong way. It just disappoints me. I do not feel the usual things that to me come naturally when a man is interested in me. He did brilliantly when we were in different countries, but now...he leaves much to be desired. I don't feel like he is trying to be more than my friend, although he has gone to the other extreme when he can corner me, he jumps all over me and I have to tell him to stop like if he's a child. This is so maddening. We may just simply not be meant for more than it has been these last two years. So I should just stop wondering about it.

The Pope and February 14th

The Pope's decision to step down has caused shock throughout the world. Today is Carnival Monday and as I got back from Jouvert, I heard the news on the radio and was also quite stunned. However, now that the information is out, we are left with a feeling of what next? What shall the procedure be? The church is one of the oldest continuous institutions and I am certain that this moment shall be handled in typical sage assurance by the powers within the church proper. ............... Meanwhile, I was giving thought to February 14th, and I am thinking that on that day I definitely want to treat myself. Be my Valentine.

My own wisdom

Over the last few months I have been helping two or three friends sort out emotional issues in their lives. A large part of the reason for doing so has been because they have sought me out and I recall in my life when having support was needed. For one friend in particular, I have been repeating for several months that she needs to know that she is not powerless in her situation....that she has her own life to look at, things to do for herself, and must not "give" her control of herself away to the person she is seeing as important. Now, I must use my own advice. Not that anyone is doing anything to me per say, but a silly email from my ex where he eluded to "not" being home when I replied to something he asked me about, sent my mind in a whirl....and the thing is, it is completely irrational. Why does this bother me? I answered that those simple words made me assume that he is having some great time with some woman he adores...meanwhile, I have not had any "I won't be home" messages to leave for him to make him wonder. Not that it is a tit for tat? Or is it? I feel stupid for feeling that, particularly when I had just told myself that whomesoever is meant to be in my life shall be better than anything I could expect...and leave it at that. Then my ego kicks in on auto pilot. It doesn't even try to be slick. I pounce on the meaning within his text and "my" real hopes, dreams and possible future reality is curtailed by old, outmoded thinking processes. I am no better than my friends who seek my council. I too fall into gaps where I waffle about my feelings. So I came here, to return to my own advice. What I set up for myself, the place of strength that I operate from IS ALWys better than any little weak moment of old thinking. What I choose to do is to be aware that the ego has raised it's head, observe it lightly and quickly advance my thinking toward what I do indeed want. Feel the achievement of really being in a loving place, happy with my choices, my work, myself. Feel how freeing that makes me in this actual moment. Then from that perspective, release that outmoded thought process, and actually thank it to, because to go back is to not grow into what I want to become. Why sabotage myself, and sabotage myself based on something that made me very unhappy at that. I wish him well, I care about him always and yes, I still do love him. But the point is, I love myself. I deserve to support my highest good.

There seems to be a fire within me of late. I find from some simple suggestion made in an article online, that I have taken to heart what I read. 1. Drink a glass of water when you wake up. Your body loses water while you sleep, so you’re naturally dehydrated in the morning. A glass of water when you wake helps start your day fresh. When do you drink your first glass of water each day? 2. Define your top 3. Every morning Mike asks himself, “What are the top three most important tasks that I will complete today?” He prioritizes his day accordingly and doesn’t sleep until the Top 3 are complete. What’s your "Top 3" today? 3. The 50/10 Rule. Solo-task and do more faster by working in 50/10 increments. Use a timer to work for 50 minutes on only one important task with 10 minute breaks in between. Mike spends his 10 minutes getting away from his desk, going outside, calling friends, meditating, or grabbing a glass of water. What’s your most important task for the next 50 minutes? These three short paragraphs have made a big impact. In the morning, having a glass of water makes me feel better. I also want to do my best to eat better than I already do. I have a goal in mind regarding my diet, and I am very curious to see how that shall go. I went to a wonderful boutique run by a Muslim lady with my neighbor, and there was a black dress with the tiniest straps on it. I kept looking at it, and eventually I decided to try it on. I have tried on slinky things before, but when I tried this dress on, my breathing accelerated. I have never reacted like that to myself in a dress before. When I showed them both how I looked in the dress, they freaked out as well. But I was not sure that I wanted to buy it. I already have a dress that I had thought at the time was sexy and slinky black, and I have never worn it anywhere, and I had bought it in. My second year of marriage. So although the dress was amazing on me, I felt, where would I wear such a thing. Naturally I was told that I would be a fool not to get it. When I got home, my mother reacted the same way that we all did. The dress is really amazing, and I have decided that for the very least, I need to take a photograph of myself in it. I am writing all of that to say that it is good to do these things, to feel confident about plans and to act from a place of certainty. It is wonderful to see yourself from a place of appreciation and know that you can see change for the better, and you are encouraged to keep moving forward to up the ante to do even more and more.

Lucky 13

Already I have started the year with some decisions made in strength and satisfaction. I have finally, finally jettisoned some dead weight. Thank god, at long last! The first one happened awhile ago,but I was able to establish where I stand after the funeral, and cement it last night. I could not believe that he had become so arrogant. He was completely out of control, not caring how he was coming across, and really flaunting whatever his agenda is. But guess what,I meant what I said, and that's that. I am not going back. Then frequent flyer, sheesh! He too has been blowing up all manner of technology when convenient to him, to send me inane notes. Then, providence was so kind to me, because yet again, without having to ask, I can see that FF is most comfortable in domestic life. So I do not know why he ever even bothered to tell me the crap he did about having patience and that he will make the time to really spend quality tome with me....as if I am some mistress or something? Thank god I never fell for even remotely considering any kind of intimacy there. I do not understand how he went from a really lovely friend to this asshole who acts as though he has some control and is separated when he clearly is not? Who is he trying to fool? I just do not get this? I never pursued that? He started all the flirting and promises. I could scream! So during his heart to heart convo with me, I looked him in the eyes and changed my mind right on the spot. I am not giving him another opportunity to blow smoke up my ass. He is back in the garage where he should have been parked years ago along with the other one. Now, there is a third satellite on the horizon. I have not discussed him because he was just as I stated, on the periphery. But something changed the dynamic, because unlike the two just mentioned, he is supposed to be single. So forgive my feminine stupidity, I actually did the worst Gorky deduction and thought, hey, he's single...so give him a chance, see whether it can possibly lead to something. Note to self....never say, let me see, give it a chance, he is a good guy...anything as shitty as that, ever again! I am not 12! Any pronouncement must be made on facts and good old fashioned summing up based on maturity. This new one, real FF, I forget now what I nicknamed him, and perhaps that is where part of the problem lies, I should not have to nickname anyone....anyway.... He seems to enjoy not answer a straightforward questions. He seems to think being mysterious is cool. Well two can play that crap game. Why waste time like that. When he finally says what he really means the question isn't even worth the time it took to get the answer! anyway...I will have to finish this later. I am exhausted.

Some new developments are happening with me. Someone is finding their way into my life. I might have mentioned him before. But for all intents and purposes, I shall call this person The Towers. The T has known and pursued me for some time. But we have only really talked. I met him twice, as he too is a frequent flyer. But unlike his namesake, The T has made money on a level where that traveling comes from his investments. We have established a lovely friendship, and he has called me in many different circumstances, told me his news and about his life, and given advice and even made my family love him too. However, I was not looking at him as a possible love interest. Who knows....I shall see.

Bitter and sweet

My first bf called me on the 19th to tell me that our dear friend, his best friend since they were about seven years old, had died in a var accident. I had known him since I was fifteen. Last year he and I hung out for the first time without former bf , and I had felt as though he had wanted to reach out to me. He told me a great deal about his life, his plans, his hopes and dreams. It was an unusual and quite nice meeting. He kept in touch with me from time to time, always interested in me and what was going on. He was a really great guy. My former bf is doing what he can to plan the funeral and act stoic, but I know that he is hurting very deeply. I have been through that myself, and I believe for him, it is the first of his oldest friends to go. ...... Meanwhile today, the " last day of the Mayan calendar and the END of the World" was also our deadline to give in our thesis project. Much to my dismay, I was still working on it up to the final second to give it in. Not where I wanted to be at all. But it could not be helped. I created one hundred booklets and boxes for an annual event for my mother over a two day period for her deadline of December 20th, so I was really pushing it. Naturally, I would have preferred a full day to look over the document and be certain that it was thorough as it could be, but it was not to be. It turned out to be quite beautiful.I have much for which to be grateful,and I am now planning how I want to launch my business for real. ....... On yet another note, FF contacted me and informed me that he will no longer be doing the frequent flyer thing, as he decided not to renew his contract. I told him that I would support any choice he made, as I completely believe in his sound judgement..meaning, if he changed his mind, it would not make me think of him in less regard. When I told him that, I felt something shift between us.he has since been sending me lots of texts with smiley faces...lol. I probably passed some male/female test of his! I have not found that in his character. But you never know. ........... I am exhausted and wired tonight, so much work and rushing, and juggling everything in my life this year. So much still to get done...but I need a good nights sleep and then I shall think about it all.