Layers

A friend called me today and we had the sort of conversation that is helpful in showing me how much I have grown and how much I have done. The person is now dealing with the fallout of divorce because it is impacting their health. My heart skips a beat at everything that was said, it knows that I have been over that ground and have toiled every step of the way to come to terms with the things that I feel have hurt me to the quick. I let her know that feelings of anger and sadness, hurt and despair are not to be avoided. On the contrary, they are to be encouraged and confronted. Once you make friends with what feels best to avoid, and you engage it, asking its purpose and listening to what it has come to say, you can dissect it and most of all, send it on its way with the tools you need to prepare for the next time.