Covid-19 world PART II

On a brighter note, my neighbor is divorcing the boyfriend she was helping to stay in our country. They had a romantic relationship that just went off the rails once he got married and started to get everything that he wanted. Or so she says. I may have mentioned before, she is a lovely person, but her social que's are the worst. Social distancing is something that was made with her in mind. She cannot sit still. If you are having a conversation with her, she must be on her phone taking pictures or doing something. Then, she always wants something to eat or drink, and whatever it is, she leaves back half or more of it. Then, she wants to take a picture of it for her Instagram account and she wants to include you in the shot. She has a frenetic energy that any boyfriend would eventually find too much. I really do believe that the men mean well and that she is too much. The good news, is that she had a new boyfriend in the weeks she decided to divorce him. This new man is married. That is not the good news) the whole set up with the new person was ridiculous. His wife lives in another country but returns every three months. This year, she returned just as Covid-19 started to make its presence felt. So my neighbor was seeing him and he was running away from his home for a hook up with her. She calls me today to say that after three months going out with him, she will be breaking up with him, because he's a cheapskate and doesn't take her anywhere. However he wants to come over for hook ups and doesn't even bring her flowers from her own garden when he comes by. I am so glad to hear her putting herself first! I think that finally she has learned from all of the experiences she has been through. Ordinarily she would have called me to work it out, make excuses for him and want to see the whole thing through for a year, or more. She also made me laugh at her own observation of the whole thing with both men...she said that the one she is divorcing was not giving her any affection and the one she left him for is giving her too much affection and ONLY the affection. Life can be so mysterious. .................................................... Now, my friend I was writing about...she has never been straight with her two children about her finances. I have tried on several occasions to encourage her to have better communication with them. But she is always telling me that I don't know them and she knows how they would react or act. Last year I may have written that our friendship was nearly severly compromised by an event with her neighbor that she ranted on and on about for several days to the point that I began to feel physical symptoms and had to cut her off. Well, I am back at that point with her again. No matter what I suggested to her, she refuses to see reason. So I backed off completely. Last year, I worked with her like it was a job, to get her to change her energy around her two children. I am happy to report that all of the hard work payed off. She went abroad and stayed with them as she does every year, half the time with one and half with the other...and she had a much better experience. So when I have to write that I cannot help her, I am saying a lot. I worked and worked with her to get her to shift her perspective, but I cannot and will not do it this time around. It is taking time away from my own life, it is that absurd! I also believe that she really doesn't want help to fix whatever it is, because like what happened with her neighbor, the issue is so damn petty that no one has time for the crap! Is this about getting older? Perhaps? What upset me most about listening to my friend is that I hear her say some really awful things about herself and her children, and I wanted to tell her that if I lived in her head, I would break free and escape. If I talk about myself and what I believe has happened to me the way that she does, then life is damn dark and pointless! And this is someone who is getting all of her needs met, all of the time. It is so sad. I just had to divorce myself from her situation for my own wellbeing.