It's me, not you

Little things can cause so much illumination to changing big things. While I was talking to that same friend I have been writing about, I brought up to break in friendship with another person, and I walked right into the part I played in the demise of that relationship. I got that person into habit of relying on me to the point where the dependence irritated me beyond measure. I did speak up and tell her at the time and after that time about the impact her actions had on me. But today I see that I also gave her permission to believe that I was always available. I took for granted the type of friendship I shared with my best friend who passed away in 2010. We had a great symbiotic relationship. We did not tire of the other. We gave each other space, we talked often and met often and then had our own lives. I cannot really explain how it worked so very well, except to say that we nurtured what we had. I bring this up today because I believe that I have made the decision to leave well enough alone with some people this year, but of course I think about it. In so doing, I look at my part and what I do on my side. I don't know if I need to change my behaviour? I just have to be more in tuned with myself when I share my life with another person. I have set good boundaries by not continuing toxic behaviour from her. There is no question that I made the right decision. But I did give her bad habits as well.