So what?!

My ex-husband and I went to a councillor yesterday. Yep, we did everything backward, got divorced and sought the councillor afterwards. It was an experience. I found that she leaned towards his way of thinking and although she got across some of mine, I didn't feel that she did it enough for him to truly 'get it'. The bottom line though is that no councillor can help you with your life.

Only you can choose to let the things that hurt,go. Only you can decide to overlook things that you held to, hoping that the other person would conform to what you need. To me, my needs seem simple,I need an apology,I need to feel some sense of respect or regard. To me it isn't something difficult to do.
However, it continues to feel and seem as though I am asking for something super human from him, because although he may say something from time to time that suggests growth,to me it comes after giving miles and miles of myself for a crumb. So,I concluded recently that none of this was worth this anymore and that I had had it.I wanted nothing to do with him. In fact last night, when he explained to me where things unravelled in our relationship, I was so beyond disappointed that I told him that the fact that he could ruin our marriage for something so minor,meant to me that we didn't have much of anything to begin with,if it could break apart so easily.

LET THE HURT GO.In fact, I will go a step further, I dare my life to take a turn for the dramatically better,so much so that this hurt (the only hurt that shall feel this devastating) shall trickle away and be of no significance in my future, to the point where I will wonder what was the whole fuss about.