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I have never actually known anyone who has gone to jail. Tonight when I think about The Towers I still cannot believe what has happened. I was on his sites on Facebook, looking at all the lack of activity there now. My mind goes back to the last few encounters with him. I feel sad about this. Tonight he is possibly behind bars, and has been behind bars since last year. No one has known what has been going on with him, or at least those who know do not know me. Quite a few people were looking to me to provide answers. I ask myself can his reputation be salvaged? He is not going to be in jail forever!This is such a major shock, I am writing in a way to curtail the aftershocks of this news that I got only yesterday. He has lost his rights. He cannot go out in one of his several cars. He can't choose a bedroom in one of his houses.He is now reduced to one item of clothing for a specific period of time in a place that he undoubtedly never prepared himself for. I think that I should write to him when I know where he is and perhaps even send him a care package. I cannot imagine what he may be going through. I remember being so impressed with his accomplishments at his age. I felt that he had the where with all to simply work hard and miraculously land on his feet. I never got the impression that he was not respected and admired,probably even envied. He drove me crazy, cunfuffled me about certain aspects of his emotional life and business, and so I distanced myself from him. But I really tried to remain friends and then, colleagues.I concluded that we were just very different, and the red flags that I spotted were for me to spot. Now, I ask myself, what was all of his actions about? I still do not know the full story and I don't know if I ever will. Will I really write to him and would he actually reply? It is early days yet. Who was he? So many things checked out? I met his family. We talked for years!I never profess to know anyone, and thank goodness for that. But still! OMG! Who the hell was he? For me, the things he did to make me pull away all came from my instinct. I even remember telling him very early when I had the first inkling that we were not going to work out, that thee is an undercurrent with people. For now I would call it a resonance. You have patterns that just happen because you agree that you want to spend time with the other person. You notice all of the subtle and not so subtle things. You know they will call. You know when they will. You know their schedule. You pick up on their moods. These things are present without having to speak about it. You just have a flow. He established that and then got weird with me. I found that he began to try to control me and I instantly recoiled from any attempt by him to do it. He really made me conscious of how much I refuse to go through anything like that in my life again. He also left me pondering about his very presence in my life. I must have written about it here many times. On paper, he represented everything that I would desire in a romantic partner. But somehow, after all was said and done, we were not compatible. I found that for important questions about his love life he was cagey and bizaare, making me assume that he was bisexual...I never thought married. That never occurred to me. there was no suggestion even remotely that he did not live alone. It's also odd....my ex and Frequent Flyer prepared me for The Towers. I thought that he seemed to be making himself such a friend to me that after three years, when we finally met again, I thought that he was a single man and that all of his attempts to get to have a relationship with me, maybe, he was someone to start one with. I was dissuaded of that very quickly. I can even say that he prepared me for juliemangoman....because I said to myself, I took a very long time to go out with The Towers. I saw that all of my old beliefs about the kind of man I was interested in proved to not actually be what I thought I wanted. Now, I am just bewildered by every move I have ever made! He has been told that he has to make restitution for his fraud.Who knows what went wrong in this promising and actually high achieving man's life to make him this person I read about yesterday? end of part 1 of 2