So, my friend called me and apolagized for her behavior. I am glad that that is now behind us. However, I really hope that we do not go down that path again, because I was truly fed up with her.I think that writing my true feelings about it all here has opened up something about me that I have to acknowledge. I attract friendships like hers, however, usually my friends have been men and they have not discussed things on the level of this friend, meaning, instinctive dislikes and jealousies. Yet, I am a listener. I know that that is appreciated. I like solving problems, so I listen a lot. I get pleasure out of solving someone's issues with them. That is the draw. However, as in all things, you pay for whatever actions you covet. So for me, that action produces a neediness that can be a bit much to take. What ends up happening to me is that the relationship becomes imbalanced. The person starts calling me much more than I would ever call them, and they would want to call me at all hours. They would not feel odd to call me five times a day to help them straighten out their lives. It ends up being a dependency that I now have to temper by selecting when to speak with them. What also happens is that it puts a strain on the relationship, so when I have my own issues, I keep my own council more than not, and when finally the other person actually bothers to ask me about me and I reveal an issue, I find that I get interrupted by their experiences and their solutions. Thus, I am now very aware that my situation is not a priority to them. The good thing about that is that I cannot become dependent as they do to me. But, I then feel that I am no longer a friend but working in a role of psychologist. My way of dealing with this cunundrum is to withdraw into my own life. I always have things to do, so I get myself busy as a way to solve my own problems and to keep my friendship healthy.