A wonderful day

Indeed. Such a great day! My "Y' husband sent me his usual aggressive text yesterday. and then today he went off on a bender. What changed today was the way I responded to him. It was as though as the saying goes, something snapped in me. It was me saying, I am not going to read, or read into the trash that comes out of his mind and onto the screen of my phone. That is HIS belief. His limitation, it is where he chooses to be. What I will not do is entertain it as something that I shall take on or ingest.It was tangible to me as I stated this fact to myself. But something else also happened. I said aloud what I would prefer before I could even vet it. I learned so much this week, I don't even know where to begin. I observed so much. I saw the way people with the perfect tools to succeed, sabotage themselves. i saw the way someone with very little skill could take their naked desire to achieve what they want grab it and succeed. Although nothing that they are doing is properly structured or competently established. I saw the way my colleague uses me and others around him to prop himself up against. We all like to feel whatever it is we need to build our image..in his instance, it is a need to look strong and powerful. In a way, typically male behavior, and so, I watched that , quite aware of what he was doing for his ego's sake. It was interesting, because in the past, I might have felt that I needed to challenge him by counter acting his statements. But as my "Y" did what he did, it was as though what I experienced with my colleague would give me the hint to know that I also did not have to jump at what my "Y" always does. I usually respond, I get riled up, because he is riled up. But this time, I could see his moves. i also imagined that his angry energy was wafting through the phone and i replied to myself aloud, I love you, I wish you well. All is well. I also had to deal with a hustler this week. The person has the traits although they are setting themselves up as an intellectual. I got to see them in full mode. But what happened this week was that, I decided to sit and stay still and give myself a moment to think on my approach to them. I had discussed them enough to draw a belief system around them...which may or may not be 100% true. However, I reminded myself that there is my observation and beliefs. the other persons observations and beliefs and the thing itself. I decided to look at the actual "concern" around what the person was doing as a thing with air around it. pretty much the way Eckhart Tolle says that you are the person observing the person thinking. When I did that, it became easy to be detached. i saw it similarly to the way one would see a bowl with something inside it inside of a larger container filled with water. Seeing that I could isolate the "thing" as separate from my notions or the other persons notions that I had deduced...I then focused on what I wanted to achieve, and no longer on the moves that would be made by the person and by myself. If this is said, then I should say that and so on. This was remarkable for me. I slowed down the chatter in my mind and the only way I can write it, is to say that I got into the flow, and it was from there that i could move forward and cut through whatever it was that it might be or really was...and seek and achieve a different outcome...and this shall help me with the "Y"