the matter at hand

December, January, February


I AM SAYING-: What is wrong with coming back for twenty-one days? I intend on seeing to my financial issues and spending time with our child.

He is saying: Do not stay for any length of time. Go back, get the medical and leave. Your objective is to find a job as fast as possible. Then, and only THEN will he look at her immigration issue.

IAS: Hold up, this was not the plan. The plan had been to see about this right away. I am here in Canada and I am very concerned about our child being away from me for several more months. I have no intention of making it months and months and even years!

HIS: She is in good hands. He doesn't agree to have her here with us as we look for work. He wants her to stay with his mother and for both of them to eventually follow us.But then he is making the situation more difficult by talking about divorce and not signing her immigration papers.

IAM: You are not giving me any insentive to either work with you or trust you. You have already changed the plans regarding her immigration and you plan on divorcing anyway. There is nothing that you can threaten now to make me do what you want because you have not even tried to work with me.
I have seen your threats, and they will not hold water. You went as far as saying that you would use my being in Canada against me and say that I abandoned our child. Now how low is that! Doesn't that sound like a very desperate man, and the thing is, what are you saying these things for? What are you hoping to achieve. I never talked divorce, you did. So why aren't you more pro active and confident about your plans for yourself? I can answer that, you are not pro-active because you know that all of this is actually about how you feel about yourself, and when you finally realise that you are afraid, only then can we really work together.