Urgent views

This afternoon my uncle told me that I needed to call my husband's relatives. When I did, I was very surprised to hear the urgency in the voice of his cousin. She is completely against my coming back to Canada empty handed. Her views are very explicit and passionate. I am sure that my husband shall be quite shocked by her attitude if she lets him stay with them! It is actually that serious! She does not support his views at all.
I have gotten many opinions about what is going on in my life. In some way, I am very grateful for the information. I believe that I cannot have not suffered for it. However, as the time draws close to going back, the decision is mine.
Here is how I see it as opposed to what it is to the other party ie. My husband.
I am going to discuss the plans as they stand. Even as I write that, I feel his resistance already.
We have not been speaking, so have I already made a tactically negative move?
I have been told even in my dreams that this man will not change. If that is the case, the problem is one of planning for our child's future separately.It also means that I owe him nothing, and do not have to go anywhere without her again!
It is that simple.
The only way that I would even consider coming back to Canada without her, would be in the instance that I am doing so for our family. That is the only reason to do it. Nothing else.
I have to admit, his cousin's words and the energy of the no calling and the arguing when we do speak, takes its toll and right now I feel like backing down from writing another word about this whole situation!
I am trying to do alot of things with my return. Can I do them all? I do not know. I have never had this experience? I do not know what to expect and to me that is helpful because it gives me hope.
I cannot set out with a defeatest attitude. I have to keep my energy high, my plans clear, my heart open, and my eye on the prize.